I’m not picking sides in the Mommy Wars (aka stay at home versus working Moms).
First of all, I’ve been on both sides of the fence. I’ve worked because I had to work, but I have also worked because I wanted to work.
Then when I decided to stay home, it was an adjustment that was not without a number of sacrifices, but for me it was the right choice.
Furthermore, I may find myself back in the workplace in the future.
I can sympathize with people who have to work.
I respect Moms who choose to work.
I am currently a Mom who works full time around the house.
These so called Mommy Wars are something I never mentioned before because it’s not an issue to me. It’s just another way some people want to divide us up and pit us against each other.
We should be supporting each other.
Each Mom needs to decide what works best for her and her family. This may change and she may need to adjust her position to meet her family’s needs, and that’s okay too.
YOU need to do what is right for your situation.
It’s easy to jump in and judge someone else for the choices that they have made with or without having walked in their shoes. Whenever I feel tempted to weigh in on issues like this, I try to remember what I really need to do is to keep my focus on my family. Raising my own children is challenging enough without expending extra time and energy worrying and arguing about the choices other people are making for their families.
So when someone snidely remarked to me yesterday, “Oh, you JUST stay at home?”
I let it roll off my back.
However, I bring it up now because if this woman, in the position she was in, had said that to another Mom, that Mom may have felt bad about herself and the choices she has made.
So until people start raising perfect children in perfect households (whether they are working or stay at home Moms), they should start keeping their opinions to themselves.
And my unsolicited advice to anyone who might find themselves receiving the opinion of another…
No matter who you are, or what you do, you just need to rock it.
Whether you have chosen to work or stay home, or whether you are there because you have to be, do the best you can where ever you are now, no matter the reason.
Let’s stop trying to divide each other.
Let’s start respecting each other.
Let’s start supporting each other.
Let’s try to be the best Moms we can be where ever we are…
And to the woman who thought she was making me feel wrong for once being a working mother, who now just stays home,
Yes, I do just stay home… and by the way, I’m fucking awesome at it.