Most parents, myself included, worry about letting our kids down in one way or another.
Am I doing enough?
Am I doing too much?
Am I a good parent?
Are my kids learning the lessons they need to succeed?
One of things I struggle with personally as a mother is letting my children learn some lessons on their own – the hard way. Failure, although difficult to watch from the sidelines, is something we all need to learn how to handle, and it’s my opinion that many of life’s greatest accomplishments are gained through defeat in some manner.
But not all lessons need to be learned in that way, and not all lessons are life-altering, game-changing ones. Sometimes it’s passing on the little things that can make all the difference.
It brings me joy to see my kids passing the knowledge I’ve shared with them to each other too. Like when we had a stomach virus go through our house, my oldest son who is now nearly eight, told his younger sister who is now nearly four, “When your belly is sick, no matter what you do, don’t trust a fart. Go sit on the toilet, okay? You don’t want to poop your pants.”
Pretty sure he got that one from me.
One thing that I’m not accustomed to though is my kids actually telling me that I’ve failed them. Perhaps, as they’re getting older this is something that I should get used to, but it caught me off guard and I really felt bad after I let my five year old down recently…
Kid: <very serious> Mom, something almost happened to me.
Me: Are you okay? What’s the matter?
Kid: You’re supposed to teach me stuff, but you forgot to teach me something important.
Me: <very surprised> I did? I’m sorry! What was it?
Kid: Cutting the cheese.
Me: Excuse me?
Kid: This is serious, Mom. I like cheese.
Me: Yes, I know, so do I.
Kid: Yeah, well what if I wanted some? What if I asked someone to cut some cheese for me, Mom? Do you know what could happen? Do you, Mom?!
Me: <trying my best to be as serious as the kid > I suppose they could fart, Jake.
Kid: So you do know! Cutting the cheese means farting! I could have wanted some cheese and gotten some farts, Mom!
Me: I apologize, even I forget things sometimes, and let’s just be thankful you found out on your own before you ended up with farts instead of cheese.
Kid: That’s okay, Mom. Let’s try not to let it happen again.
Have you ever let your kids down? Have they told you? Leave me a comment, I’d love to hear from you!