It seems like there’s a National Day or Week set aside for just about anything.
It may be to bring about awareness to an important cause, but other times it appears to be just for fun or perhaps something thought up by a group of advertising executives.
And I’m not knocking any of it, hell, I’m usually into it…two of my favorites being National French Fry Day (next one is 7/13/14), and National Wine Day (next one 5/25/14) – not to be confused with National Whine Day which according to my calendar is every day of my year.
My point is, that some of these national days/weeks/months appear to just be made up, so I decided to make one up as well.
It’s been almost a year since I did first did my Mom Shaming, and this idea for my own National Week was inspired from that movement.
So won’t you help me celebrate the first National It’s Okay to be Okay Week?
There are only a handful of simple rules:
1. You recognize that you can’t do *it all and that’s okay.
2. You recognize that no one else, despite possible appearances, is doing *it all either and that’s okay too.
3. When you see someone who appears to be doing *it all, you won’t feel jealous or self-conscious. They’re okay. You’re okay.
4. When you see someone who appears to be doing *it all wrong or not up to par, you will not judge them. They’re okay. You’re okay.
5. You will feel good about *it and be happy with the fact that you’re okay.
* It being parenthood, marriage, and/or life in general.
There’s just so much pressure to be have the perfect marriage, and the perfect family with the perfect kids, and to be the perfect wife and the perfect mother who is skinny and crafty, and to have the perfect career while staying at home full time, and etc., and etc., and etc.
It’s not only exhausting, it’s impossible.
It doesn’t start or stop with Mothers or even parents for that matter; this is something relatable to so many people.
And it’s not to be confused with drive or ambition. Wanting to be better isn’t a bad thing, but trying to attain a perfection that we perceive as necessary and normal isn’t going to bring about anything but frustration and what we perceive as failures.
Most people I know are running and running in this invisible race, and even though they’re successful by anyone’s standards, they somehow feel like they aren’t ever good enough.
I include myself in this group sometimes too.
So let’s slow down, take a minute to appreciate ourselves, and celebrate that we’re doing okay!
Here’s what you can expect from the first National It’s Okay to be Okay Week:
- Our Commemorative Color/Ribbon is Black with a Bleach Stain
- Monday 10/7/13 – Celebrate the Small Stuff! Did you brush your teeth before noon today? Did you dress in matching clothes and wear a bra? Make it to work without spilling coffee all over yourself? Celebrate it! No matter how small or seemingly ordinary your accomplishments today celebrate them – you’re awesome at being okay!
- Tuesday 10/8/13 – Laundry Ban! That’s right, today there will be no laundry done. Let those dirty clothes pile a little higher and don’t feel bad about it. It’s okay, and if you’re one of those folks who doesn’t have to do laundry every day, consider yourself ahead of the game today.
- Wednesday 10/9/13 – Breakfast for dinner day! You and your family will enjoy a simple and easy meal this evening as you dine on your favorite breakfast foods! Some meal suggestions being cereal, frozen waffles, bagels, or a dozen donuts! Get real fancy and whip up some pancakes or eggs and bacon, but that’s up to you. Tonight don’t worry about it – after all, if it’s good enough for breakfast, it’s good enough for dinner! Bon Appétit!
- Thursday 10/10/13 – Take out Thursday! After last night’s exhausting brinner (breakfast for dinner), you deserve a night off from cooking. Hit up your favorite restaurant and have them do the cooking. You’ve earned it.
- Friday 10/11/13 – Be Okay with a Friend! Find a friend, spread the word about National It’s Okay to be Okay Week and treat yourselves to something okay together! Have some coffee, go to lunch, split a candy bar while you wait in the carpool line or where ever you can squeeze it in. You deserve it and so do they.
Maybe next year we’ll have a parade or something, but this year I’m okay with just raising our coffee mugs and virtually cheering each other on!
This is just like Christmas or National Chocolate Day in that we should be celebrating not just once a year; no, this is something we should celebrate every single day.
We can’t all be #1 after all…and that’s okay.
Want to help me get the Mom Shaming going again? Check out the Shame Corner and submit your own. Although many of last year’s submissions came from bloggers, it’s not required. Anyone can have shame. Email it to me at DomesticConsultants@gmail.com.
Oh, and because the last time people kept asking me, you can Find the World’s Okayest Mom Mug Here!
So what do you think? Are you okay with being okay? Leave me a comment, I’d love to hear from you!