Worst Mom in Town

 Posted by at 2:28 pm  Uncategorized
Sep 142011
 

Well, as expected Fred’s return to his lost owners created a lot of negative emotions in my house. I have to sometimes remind myself that my kids are only six, four and two years old, and that life lesson rarely come easily or without some difficulty.

For Joey, my oldest, he was primarily saddened. He knew that returning Fred to their home was the right thing to do, and it just made him sad. The poor kid cried for an hour straight, and demonstrating the resilience of kids, he moved right from grief to anger which of course was directed at me…the worst Mom in town. I should also mention that Joey has been asking for a dog as long as he could talk. Last year, at some point, he talked with a school counselor about it (I hope it wasn’t in her office because no one told me about it). He came home and said that the counselor thought we should have “an open discussion about owning a pet and the responsibilities it holds.” I’ll be giving him plenty of counseling material with this latest event.

Jake, only being four, was saddened by Fred’s return, but he was not sold on the dog’s return as the right thing to do. There were a lot more questions like “If they lost him and aren’t responsible, why can’t we keep him?” Still questioning my decision, as he does most of the time anyway, he moved right into slathering on the guilt. He turned down an invitation to play with a friend after school and told me he was “just too sad to play.” He also fondly remembered Fred this morning and ask me, “Hey, Mom? Do you remember that time I had a dog to love?” Yes…it was yesterday.

Now Cecilia is two. Life with a toddler is challenging enough, and a lesson about right and wrong, on this level, just doesn’t translate into toddler. So when a two year old doesn’t understand why something happens, you can end up with crying, throwing fits, acting out, etc. Well, she did cry, and like her brothers. also can be dramatic (wonder who they got that from??) Yesterday, when she first realized the dog was gone, she told me “I wuved that doggy. Fred was my best friend.” She then proceeded to cry herself to sleep and I was feeling totally guilty and horrible until I saw this when I went to get her from her nap:

Take my dog? I'll show you. Here's Cecilia painted in Triple Paste (which is $25 a tub by the way). her legs, back of her hair, hands, carpet, dresser, books, toys and door all were covered in the ointment. It doesn't wash off with water either.

So now in addition to the unicorn poop, which I’m still finding all over my house, I have another submission for Shit my Kids Ruined. The ointment, which really works well keeping rashes dry, also does not come up very easily. So after wiping my daughter off with a dry cloth, baby wipes, and then a wash cloth I finally got it all off of her. At one point, while bathing her, I said, already knowing the answer, “Why would you make a big mean mess like this?” She replied with, “Where’s my dog?”

Mystery solved.

So three of the saddest kids ever went to bed dogless last night, and awoke today ready to spread the guilt on thick again.

I wonder what Fred is doing now?” Jake pondered.

Probably wondering why Mom gave him back to irresponsible owners…” Joey replied.

That doggy was cute. I wuved him and wuved him,” Cecilia recalled.

And perhaps worst of all was Cecilia’s reading material today which I had never seen before this morning…do they sell “Self Help” books for toddlers?

"Chicken Soup for the Kids Soul...Friendship" adorned with a picture of puppies.

And don’t worry she was actually crying because Jake had a book she wanted (and in addition to not understanding why we gave the dog back, Sharing is a pretty foreign concept as well).

So here we are…one day with a dog…and now one day without. I imagine it’ll be a few more days until my popularity begins to rise again.

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Life with Fred

 Posted by at 4:59 pm  Uncategorized
Sep 132011
 

Yesterday afternoon I left the house in a rush, and just a hundred feet from my neighborhood I came upon a little white (but dirty) dog in the middle of the road.  He narrowly escaped being flattened by a semi-truck and car, and I felt compelled to pull over.  The dog had now moved to the shoulder of the road where he stood filthy and panting heavily, but began to wag his tail when I approached the scared pooch.

I’ve been in the situation a dozen times or so before and usually the dog runs away from me and I try to at least steer it away from traffic.  Fred, as my children would come to call him, was different.  He whimpered a bit, but bravely came towards me and gave no resistance as I scooped him up and placed him in the back of the Suburban.  He was wet, covered in dirt, and smelled gross, but I left all that out when I called home to warn my husband what I had just done.   My husband replied with a few curse words mumbled under his breath and asked what I intended to do.  My hope was that it was a dog from the neighborhood so I said I would drive around looking for his owner after I had the boys.

Oh, my boys were so happy when I surprised them with the muddy mongrel in the car!  They didn’t care if he smelled bad or was all dirty, they just instantly fell in love.  As soon as we got home, I let the dog pee in the backyard, gave him some water, and started driving around looking for his owners.  I called the local animal shelter and left my information and the dog’s description as I drove.  No one had called looking for him yet.

I stopped about 30 adults in the neighborhood and I had about five false identifications.  I left my info with everyone on where to find me if someone came looking for the lost pet.  After an hour, I came home and let the dog in the backyard again while I tried to figure out what to do.  I called a local vet who said I could have the dog scanned the next day for a chip, but that they were closing up then.  So as the dog frolicked around the backyard with the kids, I knew I was in trouble.  The longer this dog stayed, the worse it was going to be on the kids (and me) later.

One thing was for sure, this little pooch wasn’t stepping foot in my house covered in whatever it was all over him so I gave the dog  bath, and was shocked how behaved he was.  I’ve never owned a dog that just stood there and let me soap, lather and rinse without a shake or attempt at escape.  After his bath we bought some food and he ate his dinner hungrily, but sat quietly while we ate ours.

The dog knew basic commands, went to the door when he had to go to the bathroom, barked to come back inside, and didn’t seem to mind the kids following him around like a lost bunch of puppies themselves.  He played with the toys they gave him,  but didn’t bother anything else. The kids showered him with belly rubs, ball tosses and Cecilia taught him about Colors and the Seasons by reading him two of her favorite books.  They decided to call him Fred, and swore they’d love him forever.  I told them we were just helping Fred find his way home, and the kids agreed that if he was their dog and he was lost, they’d be sad so we should help him if we could.

Nighttime came and we decided since Fred was so behaved he could sleep upstairs on an old blanket.  He quietly laid on his spot until 7am when he woke to go outside.  The kids all woke up happy, even though much earlier than normal, and played with the dog after breakfast.  I called the shelter again and still no one called looking for him, so I picked up a leash to take him to the vet to get scanned.

Before that he enjoyed some yard time with Cecilia and Jake and even a walk around the neighborhood.  Still no one knew where he was from.  After dropping Jake off at school, with Fred flying copilot, Cecilia and I took Fred to the vet down the road.  He sniffed around as the tech read his tag and after the second sweep she had a hit.

I have to admit, my heart sunk a little.  She checked their system with no luck, but called around and gave me Fred’s address. Actually Fred is really Zippy and he lives just two blocks from my house, in an adjacent neighborhood.  I called the contact numbers and dropped Fred, I mean Zippy, off at the owner’s workplace.  Apparently, Zippy is known for breaking loose so maybe we’ll see him again one day.

My daughter cried when we got home and she realized the dog wasn’t in the car.  She said “where’s my doggy. I wuv him. He a happy dog.” over and over. When I put her down for a nap she cried over the monitor and said “I want my doggy.” again and again.

Things would only get worse when picking up Jake and Joey from school.  Joey search the street for our car and I told him I found Fred’s home while he was at school. The poor kid literally burst into tears and cried for an hour after school.  Jake said he was too sad to play outside. Too many memories I guess.

So there you have it.  Life with Fred was good yet brief.  He was the best dog I didn’t own, and I know my kids won’t soon let me forget him.  So if anyone want to donate a hypoallergenic dog (my husband and father are both allergic and that’s why we don’t have a dog) let me know.  Until then, we have a day’s worth of memories and a handful of photos:

Fred cools off in the shade after playing with the kids

An old dog might not be able to learn new tricks, but he sure can learn his colors. Or wait... Aren't dog's color blind? That just makes Fred extra special.

Say what you want, but Fred knows fashion. Feather boas are all the rage this year.

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Jun 062011
 

I’ve defeated the pet ants I told you about in my last post.  No, I didn’t find a solution to keeping the pests at bay like a new spray or trap, but I did use my superior intellect and cunning to keep Joey from attracting and nurturing pet ants.  Some people might call what I’ve done giving in, but getting the kid a real pet will hopefully prevent the capture, feeding and hiding of insects (including but not limited to ants, slugs, moths, caterpillars and potato bugs) inside of my home.

This weekend, while we were at the beach, we stopped and purchased three hermit crabs:

Apparently, hermit crabs, when given the proper living environment, can live for 15 to 40 years.  So far, I’m happy that these three have survived since Saturday.  From my research, these pets are clean and relatively easy to care for…we’re following some simple tips like having the more than one crab (apparently they are social creatures and live longer in pair and groups), giving them a few larger empty shells in case they want to switch, providing driftwood for climbing, and sand for digging.  The information also said that these pets like to be walked and allowed to roam around on occasion, so the kids are excited that they can race the crabs and walk them outside.  However, I told them we should let them get used to their new home before we start racing them in the driveway.

As a child, we had two hermit crabs, and from what I can remember they lived for a couple years.  One even escaped while we were on vacation and we didn’t find it for two weeks after we returned.  The crab apparently lived off of dust and lint from behind the dryer during his time out of the cage.  With the fabulous accommodations we’ve given our new crabs, they’ve got to live a while.

Just wish me luck…if these things die, I’ll most likely be coerced into buying a larger animal.  Just look how attached Joey is already…he was singing them to sleep on Saturday (the cage he has them in was just for transportation purposes):

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