I want my kids to grow up to be good people. I really, really do.
When you think about all that entails, it can seem like a daunting task.
I know that as a parent, there have also already been times where I’ve let my children down, but I think that part of being a good Mom and an effective parent is to recognize failure, and keep trying to do better anyway. Maybe that, in itself, is an important lesson..?
Despite my past short-comings, when I see an opportunity to teach a lesson, I still go for it.
Here’s what happened when I attempted a talk on Finding the Silver Lining with my daughter, Cecilia:
Me: Sometimes we need to look for the good things, even in a bad situation. People call that finding the silver lining.
5 year old: (Scrunches her brow, clearly thinking hard for a moment) Well, that’s easier for you than it is for me.
Me: I’ve been doing it longer, but it can still be hard for me to find the silver lining sometimes. Things might seem to be going badly, but if you look really hard, you might be able to find something good in the situation. The important thing is that you try. Even if you can’t see the good right away, trying to focus on something positive is always better than looking at just the bad things. Don’t you think?
5 year old: Mom! I mean it’s easier for you because I don’t have the silver linings – all of mine are brown! Your head is full of lots of silver linings mixed in with your regular hairs!
Me: I think I feel a few more silver linings sprouting now.
So there you have it, if you ever find yourself unable to find the silver lining, come find me. I know right where to look, and fortunately I have lots to spare.